The homemaker

A man of God who is following the Lord Jesus Christ spends his life providing for the needs of his family.

Because of the love he has for his wife and children he provides for them. He provides them with food he provides them with clothing, and a home. He takes care of them physically.

The one thing that a husband expects is that his wife will provide for the needs of the children and to be a homemaker. The calling for the wife is found in the following verse.

Titus 2:5 …… to be discreet chaste keepers at home good obedient to their own husbands that the word of God be not blasphemed.

A keeper is a manager who looks over and cares for someone or something.

Personally, I’ve been hired as a manager for numerous different jobs over the years. I have also managed my own businesses. Managing something means to direct or to supervise the things that go on. That is what God calls a wife to do if she’s professing to be a Christian. She is charged by God to take care of the things that go on at home. The home is her husbands Castle that he has entrusted her to oversee.

As a Christian woman, she needs to stay home and take care of the emotional needs of the children. After all, the man’s duty is taking care of the rest of their needs financially.

When my son Andrew was young I never wanted to send him to a babysitter or to daycare. In my heart I always felt that was wrong. A parent is supposed to be there for their child. There are things that a parent provides to their child that a babysitter will never do. In Christianity this is the calling for a wife.

Who do you think cares more for the sheep, the owner, or the hireling?(John 10:13) You can hire somebody to watch your children but they do not love them the way that the parent does. Do you really think the child wants to be with the babysitter if they have the choice to be with their parent?

Out in the world today there are men and women who both have jobs, but in Christianity it teaches that a mother needs to be at home to take care of the needs of the children.

I think that some men consider their wife as a paycheck but the truth is it’s more important to have less in this world physically and more love emotionally. Children need someone who is with them consistently.

I think in my own life that’s why I enjoyed working at the school so much because I was constantly working with the children. When I think about it Paul, he was like a mother to the church constantly attending to their spiritual needs. The Apostle Paul was more concerned about spiritual relationships then Earthly riches.

Children need a mother or a parent around to guide them constantly. In order to fulfill this calling we have to learn to get by on less. If you’re really going to have a close family you need to make those dollars stretch.

When I was young I was told that you cannot get by In this world unless both the parents were working. I love them for their advice but I guess I’ve always been the kind of person who was fine having less possessions and more love, rather than having more possessions and less love. This is what my wife agreed to when I married her. Being poor in this world is not a sin when you are rich in love. It’s the lack of love that is a sin not poverty.

This is why I moved my family out in the woods in the first place. I wanted a simple life so that we could enjoy one another’s company and get by day by day. Love of money is the root of all evil. It’s so evil because what you do is you choose money over relationships that God has placed in your path.

The kingdom for the Christian wife is the home that her husband has provided unto her. It is her palace and she is the princess. Like a manager of a company she has been placed in charge by her husband to take care of everybody therein. A homemaker is a steward of love. She has been given the responsibility of that stewardship by her husband and she needs to be faithful not only to him but her calling in Christ.

When all is said and done how much do you really need in this life to enjoy each others company? You can spend all your time making money but in the end what matters most of all is the time that you spend with others.

It’s those close relationships that develop because you chose to spend time with others. Being a homemaker is a blessed job, and that is the calling for Christian wife.

Granted, because of choosing to stay home for Christ, there is going to be less income made, but what’s more important, money, or hanging out with these cute children that you love.

If I had been born a woman I would have stayed home home with my kids permanently. It would have been my joy in life. I’m a man and my duty is to help provide for their physical needs.

To make up for this I tried to create numerous jobs working alongside my family. Andrew and I have worked side by side with each other for 15 years. I’ve been self-employed pretty much all my life.

In the last 20 years I’ve tried to create family businesses where we could all be together working. In this way I could be with my family and work at the same time. What can I say, I love my wife and children. The more time that I can spend with them the better.

To be completely honest with you, if I had been a woman and new that I had a place to sleep,..had food and clothing for me and my children for the day, there would have been nothing more enjoyable for me then spending every waking moment with them. I’m sure I would have been a really cheap date. I’ve never really been into riches but rather the riches of relationships. It’s referred to in the bible as Charity.

I know It can be difficult at times being a homemaker but it’s hard being a dad too. What job does not present its own difficulties periodically?

The calling for a Christian woman is to stay home and take care and raise children. That is her purpose and function.

When a man goes out there and tries to make a living, he can’t be there for the children all the time so what he does is that he places his faith and trust in his wife that she will provide for the physical and emotional needs of the children.

Her responsibilities as a homemaker is to take care of these children.

What do a lot of women in the world do today? They abandon their children and they go out into the world and they try to make a living on their own. Some people might not like to hear about that but it’s the truth. It is so unloving and immoral. That is not the calling for the Christian wife.

Granted, a lot of us men out there are not wealthy and rich. I told my beloved wife before I ever married her that if she was going to marry me that she should never expect to have money. I knew that we would be poor but I wanted to be rich in love.

When I was living down in New Mexico for a while, I had a friend there who had a couple of children. He was fairly wealthy and had a lot of money. One day after work he approached me and told me that no matter how much money or toys that he had given to his children, he noticed that they were happiest when they were simply spending time with each other.

It doesn’t cost money to spend time with those you love. I’ve always felt that being a homemaker is probably one of the greatest jobs that you could ever have in your life. It’s about spending time with the ones that you love.

True happiness comes from spending time with each other. Sadly some people can sit in front of the t.v. all day long.

Personally I’ve never been a man who has had a lot of money but I did make my future wife completely aware of this before I married her.

I told her on numerous occasions that if she planned to marry me she needed to expect to be poor. I’m not talking about poverty by the worlds standards. I would provide a modest home for her. I would provide property for her to live on and to raise her children. I promised to provide her with food and water and the things that she needed to sustain her and the children.

When you become a family man, your wallet becomes the property of your family. As a neighbor recently told me….dad is the bank!

I don’t own an 50,000 pickup. I don’t own a $150,000 home. When I got married to my wife we decided that it was not about being rich in earthly possessions.

When I got married it was never about the money, it was never about possessions, it was about wanting to be together for the rest of our lives.

I made sure she understood that I wanted her to be a homemaker to raise children out in the beautiful Northern Minnesota Woods.

My marriage has never about the money, it was about relationships. The marriage ring that I have on my finger is a keychain that I found at a rummage sale that had an old car key on it.

Honestly, I may not have a lot of money. I may not have a lot of possessions. But the one thing I do have is loyalty to my friends. I will never leave them nor forsake them. I may make a lot of mistakes along the way, but one thing that I will never do is abandon my friends. That is abhorrent to everything I believe. Friends in the church are forever. Jesus never abandoned the disciples, but there were those who abandoned him.

A homemaker needs to have the same attitude. She needs to be there for the children and their needs. That is her calling by Christ. That is her job and her profession.

The definition for a homemaker is a woman who does not have any other job that is outside of the home.

Again, a wife’s kingdom and palace is her home. Granted it might not be much of one, but we do the best that we can for our precious wives and families men!

That’s it for today Lord willing we will talk to you some more later. Till then, bye-bye everybody.