Defraud Not

Good morning and welcome in today. Today we’re going to take a look at the following passage of scripture.

1 Cor 7:4-5

⁴ The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

⁵ Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Today we are going to talk about sexual fraud in the bedroom. It’s really a hate crime. It is depriving your spouse of a sexual relationship with yourself. I don’t think I could define a hate crime more than that because it’s involved within a marriage.

When you marry a person you’re deciding that you’re going to stick with them through everything that you go through. In a marriage sexuality is the property of the other person. When you go out and purchase a car you got a license for it. When you go out and buy a motorbike you got a license for it. When you are married you get a license for it. It shows that the other person is your property and one of your possessions.

In a marriage you become one with each other. In a marriage you are no longer twain but you become one flesh. Your body becomes joined together with the other through a sexual relationship with them. Sexuality was created by God to be enjoyed through marriage. Marriage produces all these cute little children that we have running around. You’re never supposed to deprive your spouse of a sexual relationship. That is called defraud and it is a sin.

If someone defrauds you, they take something away from you or stop you from getting what belongs to you. That’s why adultery is so wicked. In a marriage the wife becomes the property of the man. The man’s body is the property of the wife. We are not talking today about depriving somebody or defrauding them out of money. This passage is talking strictly about sexuality which I think even a younger child could figure out.

This passage is about taking away the sexual rights that your spouse has in a marriage. People do this all the time out in the world but Paul is speaking to the church. He was speaking to people who are profession to be Christians. This applies specifically to them because they claim to be believers.

In a marriage the wife does not have power over her own body. If you have power it means that you have position or authority over something. In this passage we are discussing sexual appetites in the bedroom.

I’ve always taught that marriage is about sexuality. If it wasn’t about sexuality, you could be friends with all kinds of people that you want. Being a friend with others doesn’t mean that you have sex with them. Marriage goes beyond friendship. It goes beyond going out for dinner or to a movie or on a date. Marriage has to do with sexuality in the bedroom.

If people are going to dive into a marriage couples need to understand that neither of them are supposed to deprive the other of a sexual relationship. After all, it is for that reason why they married you. Some people have stronger sexual desires than others. God has provided marriage as a way to take care of those issues in the bedroom. A Christian wife is never supposed to deny her husband of sexual rights in the bedroom. It’s completely wrong. It’s wrong because the scriptures teach it.

What happens when you can’t take care of your spouse sexually? They can get led off into temptation or end up getting involved sexually with somebody else. In a marriage it’s a must that you take care of each others sexual needs. A husband does not have power of his own body. He has to be there for the sexual needs of his wife.

She is never do you usurp over him because he is the head of the household, but if she has desires in the bedroom, he needs to take care of her. A woman has no authority over decision-making because she is not the head of the household, but love teaches us that if your spouse has desires for sexual needs that you need to provide for those things.

It doesn’t matter if you are in the mood. It doesn’t have to do with us… but the other persons sexual desires. To deprive a spouse of a sexual relationship is truly a hate crime. If your spouse has needs and desires but you’re not going to provide for those needs and turn away from them, where is God’s love in marriage?

The Bible teaches us to love one another. When you deprive the other person in a marriage of a sexual relationship with yourself there’s all kinds of things that can result because of it, such as fornication or even adultery. You surely do not want to be the cause of those things because you deprive someone else of what is rightfully theirs. What you would be doing in that situation, is leading somebody into a place of temptation. Can you think of a person who tempts others or put them into a place of temptation? Anybody who is Christian would conclude its the devil.

If you are depriving a spouse of a relationship with you sexually, then you are simply leading them off to be tempted. There really isn’t love happening for the other person in that case. I taught for 20 years that if it isn’t love, then it’s sin. God is love and love speaks the truth.

You can have difficulties that happened in marriage but never forget women, man is the head of the household. That is a truth that will never change. A woman is supposed to submit and obey him in everything and never usurp over him or his authority.

If women are not going to obey their husband they’re not going to obey Christ. If they don’t obey authority of a man, how are they going to obey the authority of Christ the Lord God?

Those who are faithless in the least are faithless also in much. Remember Sarah respected and loved Abraham our father in the faith and she called him Lord.

A wife may get upset with her husband but the truth is she needs to obey him in everything. If she doesn’t she sins against her husband and Christ. She’s not supposed to deny him of a relationship with herself in the bedroom.

Imagine a child who gets upset with their dad and they slam the door of the house never to return. That is a state of rebellion. Please do not deny your spouse of relationship with yourself. Denying sexual rights is to defraud the other. the Lord Jesus warned not to defraud one another.

When you defraud somebody you take something away from them that they have a right to. It is something that belongs to you. This passage is talking about sexuality today.

You are not supposed to deprive each other except its with mutual consent. It’s great if you want to go a few weeks or a month and completely devote yourself to the Lord but it has to be with consent of your spouse.

Some people have stronger desires than others. I think it all comes down to our physical makeup. God does not want us to burn with desire. That’s the reason why he provided marriage.

God wants to keep the devil from tempting us for our incontinency. A spouse does not want to put the other spouse into a place of temptation by denying them that right, otherwise they’re joined up with the devil! If you do that you’re basically handing your spouse over the to the devil to be tempted. you’re not supposed to be a stumbling block. That’s wicked and evil.

The word incontinent means showing lack of self-control especially sexual desire. The longer that a person goes without sexual satisfaction in the bedroom the more they can be tempted by the devil. I guarantee you that you do not want to be the cause of somebody else’s sin.

You do not want to be the cause of leading somebody else into a place of temptation otherwise what you do is become a stumbling block unto them. You surely don’t want to purposely and willfully defraud your spouse of what rightly belongs to them. You belong to them in marriage.

1 Thess 4:6

⁶ That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified.

In the church we are no longer just a man and a wife, but we are brothers and sisters. You do not want to defraud a brother. He has the rights sexually to her in the bedroom. It is a fact that the Lord will avenge all such disobedience. Because of that truth, you don’t even want to go there. God is love and the opposite of love is sin.

Mark 10:19 ..Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, defraud not…

1 Corinthians 6:8… ye do wrong, and defraud and that your brethren.

As a Christian, remember that these are supposed to be people that you love and care about in the church. A Christian home is something different than what you’re going to see in the world today.

A man in a Christian home has complete authority and is the head of the household. He has been ordained by God into that position. A wife is underneath his authority. She needs to listen to everything that she is told.

In Christ’s love, you are not to deprive each other sexual satisfaction in the bed. That is a marital right.

You’re supposed to please one another sexually as the need arises. If you both decide to focus on the Lord and deprive yourselves, that’s a good thing but only if it is by consent. God does not want us to burn with lust. That’s why he provided marriage.

Lastly if you defraud your brother in any matter and deprive them of their rights in the bedroom, God will avenge that.

What we need to do is love each other. That is the simplicity of the gospel. Forgive and be merciful and be gracious. Kiss hug makeup because love is the end of the commandment.

Think about those things for today and Lord willing we will talk to you some more tomorrow. Till then bye-bye everybody.