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Good Morning and welcome in everybody. Today we are going to take a look at a passage of scripture from First Corinthians, starting at verse one.

1 Corinthians 7 ¹ Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. ² Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

The Apostle Paul teaches that it’s a good thing not to touch a woman. It’s great if you can completely abstain from sexuality, but not everybody can do that. In the flesh, people can have extremely strong sexual desires, and even get involved with many different partners, but as Christian, fornication is absolutely forbidden, and is not supposed to be named once among those who profess to be followers of Christ. People such as these will not have an inheritance in God’s coming Kingdom.

Ephesians 5 ³ But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; ⁴ Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. ⁵ For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

Sexuality was created by God, and it is benevolent when used in the proper manner. It is undefiled when exercised within the bond of marriage between a husband and his wife. I will forewarn you, that the misuse of sexuality will bring about God’s judgment.

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4

God gives us a way to escape sexual sins, and it’s found through the marriage commitment. If you can avoid sexual desires, the single life is certainly the better way to go! People can have very close relationships with each other without getting married to them. The Apostle Paul did. Marriage is a union of the flesh, joining two together as one, in sexual activities. Obviously, if you are not drawn sexually to them, then there is no need to get married at all, you can simply remain friends. 

If you decide to get married, you are responsible for fulfilling the sexual desires of your spouse. After all, this is why they married you in the first place. They found you handsome or pretty, and were attracted to your external features. They liked your smile, or the color of your hair, because they were attracted to you in a physical manner. When you tie the knot with your spouse, you are never to deny them of sexual rights to your body. This is absolute cruelty. Your body belongs to them, and it needs to be available when their needs arise. That sounds physical doesn’t it, but that’s exactly what marriage is because it is a union of the flesh. We can have wonderful spiritual relationships without marriage. Marriage is created for sexual gratification otherwise it’s not needed. Marriage is a commitment to provide for the sexual needs of your spouse.

³ Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

⁴ The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

Your wife may desire to steal some moments of your time, and suddenly whisk you away somewhere private. Although you were working on your four wheeler, the timing might not be perfect for you, but it is for her. Men must cheerfully and graciously allow her to have what she desires. It is an act of kindness and charity to give yourself to her in such a manner. 

Your husband may be overcome with desire as he watches you prepare supper. He wants to take you away from your busy work so that he can enjoy you physically. It might not be the perfect moment for you, but it is for him, and supper will need to be placed on hold. Wives need to submit cheerfully and meekly to their husbands’ desires, because it is an act of kindness and charity to give yourself to him in such a manner.

To withhold the sexual needs of your spouse, is like withholding food from a child. Children depend on their parents to provide for them and feed them when they’re hungry. Your spouse married you to be able to partake of a sexual relationship with you. To deny them of that right is to defraud them, which is also a sin.

⁵ Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

When you willfully defraud your spouse of sexual relationships, you are defeating the entire purpose of marriage. What would have been the point of getting married in the first place? A spouse is expecting certain things sexually, and to deny them of that right is to defraud them of what is rightfully theirs. Sadly some people will claim that they don’t love their spouse like they used to, or they don’t have the time. As a Christian we are called to obey Christ, which requires providing for their sexual needs

The only time that it is permissible to abstain from sexual relationships within your marriage, is if you both agree to it. This is so you can focus completely on God. God doesn’t want people to have to go through temptations because they are being denied sexuality. It’s one thing to make that decision on your own, but it’s completely another to impose it on somebody else against their will. Remember that God created marriage as a way to escape fornication. What if your spouse is still an unbeliever? They obviously won’t be praying and fasting while you are. Any time frame of your religious observance, must be agreed to beforehand, so that your spouse doesn’t suffer withdrawal symptoms, or be tempted.

⁶ But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.  ⁷ For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.  ⁸ I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. ⁹ But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

You must also remember that someday in the Kingdom of heaven, marriage will no longer exist, as we will be united forever in the everlasting bond of marriage to Christ. Earthly marriage is a union of the flesh, provided as a way to escape fornication. The Apostle Paul was single, and he encouraged other people to live the same type of life, but it is better to get married than to burn with sexual desire. 

Remember that a man provides for his wife and children by putting supper on the table. A wife provides for the needs of her family by putting clothing on their backs. A charitable marriage is to provide for the sexual needs of your spouse, by giving them what they desired when you first got married……

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