Good morning and welcome in today. Today we’re going to take a look at some scripture from Ephesians chapter 4 but before we do that…
The word tender means soft or delicate in substance. It’s not hard and tough like an overcooked steak.
When I eat a steak or enjoy a hamburger I like it really soft and tender. It needs to be cooked all the way through completely but it needs to be tender and soft for me to really enjoy it. God wants our hearts to soften up. Soft hearted people are a pleasure to be around because they are forgiving and filled with grace.
Their hearts are easily affected with feelings of love, pity, or sorrow and easily moved to sympathy or compassion; being affectionate or loving.” A soft-hearted person is contrite and penitent. If they make a mistake they feel Godly sorrow for the wrongs that they’ve committed.
Let’s take a look at our study passage for today.
Eph 4:31-32 … be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Today we’re going to look at a few of the qualities of a tender heart which include pity, compassion, and forgiveness
The antonym for being tenderhearted is hard-hearted. These people are filled up with an unloving, unforgiving merciless heart.
Hebrews 3:8 – Harden not your hearts, as in the provocation, in the day of temptation in the wilderness:
Kindness is possessing a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person: the opposite being cruel. God is kind to all and extends His grace to sinners.
Titus 3:3-4 For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.
4 But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared,
God wants us to take the kindness that He has shown unto us and to give it to others.
2 Pet 1:7. And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.
Our God is a tenderhearted God. He wants us to be filled with the same qualities that He has. As Jesus forgives us when we confess, we are to forgive others who confess.
Colossians 3:12-13 – Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Somebody who is soft-hearted shows sympathy and concern for other people. They feel sadness for the suffering or unhappiness of others
1 Peter 3:8-9 – Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
God wants us to love and care for each other with pure hearts.
Romans 12:10 – Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
When our hearts are tender, they are very soft and filled with pity for others. The Lord Jesus is full of pity towards us in this world.
James 5:11 – Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy.
Someone who possesses a tender heart desires to forgive when people confess and repent.
Matthew 6:12 – And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
If someone confesses and reconciles, it is the tender heart that forgives and forgets, ceasing to hold any grudge or bitterness. God wants us to forgive as He forgives us.
Matthew 6:14-15 – For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Mark 11:25 – And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
If some has wronged you, you tell them. If they apologize, then forgive them.
Luke 17:3-4. Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.
Love covers a multitude of sins. People can be very bitter and unforgiving when someone apologizes. God warns not to do this. He is the God of mercy who completely forgets our sins. That is a tender heart. When you say I repent and apologize to others, even if the other party does not forgive you, you have done what’s required of you.
Luke 6:37 – Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
Remember that they wanted to stone and condemn an adulterous woman to death. Jesus extended mercy to her and said go and sin no more.(John 8:3)
God does good to everyone. The sun rises upon all of us each day.
Romans 12:20-21 – Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
Somebody who is tender-hearted will be filled with sincere charity.
1 Corinthians 13:4 – Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
We want to show love and kindness to others and follow the one who first showed us His love.
Ephesians 5:1 – Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;
Confession must happen towards God and others that we have wronged because without confession it precludes forgiveness.
1 John 1:9 – If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
The tenderhearted forgives when confession is made. Look at this example.
Gen 50:17-18 So shall ye say unto Joseph, Forgive, I pray thee now, the trespass of thy brethren, and their sin; for they did unto thee evil: and now, we pray thee, forgive the trespass of the servants of the God of thy father. And Joseph wept when they spake unto him.
18 And his brethren also went and fell down before his face; and they said, Behold, we be thy servants.
God is very gracious and forgiving with us and we should desire to extend that same Grace to others.
Psalms 112:4-5 – Unto the upright there ariseth light in the darkness: he is gracious, and full of compassion, and righteous.
Someone who is kind behaves in a gentle, caring, and helpful way towards other people. It’s better to be poor have nothing as long as you are kind.
Proverbs 19:22 – The desire of a man is his kindness: and a poor man is better than a liar.
A tender-hearted man is forgiving, merciful and pitiful towards others.
Matthew 18:21-35 – Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents.But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made.The servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt.
But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest.And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt.
So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done. Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee? And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.
In this passage is an example of confession and forgiveness. Later on when somebody apologized and confessed his faults the same person wouldn’t forgive. He had been shown a tender heart but yet he himself was not tender-hearted towards others. Be forewarned that God will retaliate against that kind of mercilessness.
Our God is a God of tender mercy. He grants us remission for our sins which is a pardon for offences that we have committed without any penalty.
Luke 1:77-78 To give knowledge of salvation unto his people by the remission of their sins, Through the tender mercy of our God; whereby the dayspring from on high hath visited us,
Even when we were yet sinners Christ died on the cross for our sins. We want to show that same love to others so that they will believe the truth and come to mercy of Christ. Our God extends kindness to all!
Luke 6:35 – But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.
A tender heart is ready to forgive others who confess their sin.
Luke 11:4 – And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive everyone that is indebted to us.
The tender heart cares about others because the scriptures teach that God careth for us.
Romans 12:10 – Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
A tender heart is filled with pity for others. Pity is having a sympathetic and forgiving attitude towards someone.
James 5:11 – Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy.
The Lord Jesus Christ wants to see these qualities in us because that is the way he is. If it wasn’t for God’s mercy none of us would be here right now.
Lam 3:22-23 It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness.
Be tender-hearted and forgiving with each other. Be merciful as God the Father is merciful to each of us each and every day
2 Cor 1:3 “Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;”
Praise God for his forgiveness.
That’s where I’m going to stop for right now but Lord willing we’ll talk to you some more tomorrow….till then, by by everybody