Today we’re going to focus on a woman’s duties to the Lord Jesus Christ. A duty is defined in the dictionary as a moral or legal obligation or responsibility that one might have.
The second definition says a task or an action that someone is required to perform.
I was just looking here at one of the definitions and speaking about children’s obligations it says, the respect and obedient conduct that is due a parent or a superior.
Lastly it’s a task or a chore that a person is expected to perform. For example, you might say it’s your duty to cut the lawn today and the child will go out to do it.
Well today we’re going to take a look at some scriptures that have to do with women’s duties to Jesus in the church and we’re going to look at women’s duties to their families. Let’s start with 1st Peter 3:1
It teaches….you wives be in subjection to your own husbands
You know, today there’s a lot of things that have changed in the world compared to two, three or four hundred years ago. Subjection is something that people seem to have a real problem with. People out in the world can live whatever way they want but when it comes to being a Christian if you’re going to profess to be a believer in Jesus Christ, a wife needs to be in subjection to her husband. She needs to allow herself to be completely in his control.
Subjection is a great thing. When you put yourself in subjection to authority, your children learn authority because they watch your behavior. Obedience in the church can be readily learned by watching a mother’s submission to their dad.
It’s seen in how a wife obeys her husband daily, or how a dad in the family consistently and Faithfully preaches God’s word. An obedient dad leads His family to Jesus, baptizing them and bringing the family together for worship.
So I want you to take a real good listen to what subjection means. I’m going to try to make it really easy for you to understand.
Subjection is when a person submits to being controlled by another. The teachings of Jesus clearly show us that a woman in the home is supposed to be in subjection to her husband; he is the head of the household. He is in control of her. He is put in that charge by God to protect her and the children. She can reject that control, but that is not a Christian wife.
She has to allow herself to be controlled because he is making the decisions. Christian Liberty that is found in the scriptures is not about disobedience to those who are your authority. That’s not what we call freedom, it’s what the Bible calls rebellion.
Now, we can always petition and ask things from your authority, like we do with God; that’s why we pray to him; and a woman can ask things of her husband but ultimately he’s the one who is in charge of making the decisions for the family.
If he’s a Christian dad he tries to make his decisions based on the word of God for the family. A dad might say you shouldn’t be doing this, or I don’t want you doing that. He might add, God’s word says you shouldn’t have a part of that. If you put yourself into his control you are accepting what he is telling you. Do you really think that a dad wants evil to befall you or your mother?
Think about the Secret Service and how they protect the president of the United States. Some might feel that they’re too controlling or overprotective, but they have been charged with that Duty for the president, just like a dad is for his own family.
Once again 1st Peter 3:1 teaches you wives be in subjection to your own husbands. That means you have to allow yourself to be controlled by them and I really believe that in a marriage you need to understand that if you’re going to get married. That is what’s going to happen because he’s in charge.
Out in the world that’s a whole different story, I understand that because of all the things that are going on: equality, feministic beliefs or teachings that women should be over men. That happens out in the world and I don’t have an issue with the way that they live in the world but in the church if we’re going to be a Christian we need to do as Jesus commands us.
I’m not here to judge people out in the world, these are judgments that are meant for people who are professing to be a Christian, okay? Let’s move on to 1st Peter 3:4
It says she’s supposed to be of a meek and quiet spirit. The word meek means quiet gentle and easily imposed on: submissive. A sweet and submissive wife you might tell her I need this done today or the children need this or that and she says yes sir I’ll do that for you I love you honey.
Think of how submissive Joshua was to Moses. That is a really blessed wife when they’re living in that manner. Her husband is going to take a big notice in her obedience, (and especially of her disobedience!)
It also says she’s quiet. Quiet means making little or no noise or she carries out her work discreetly. She’s filled with the absence of noise or bustle: she’s calm. One of the definitions says silence is the absence of ambient audible sound.
You know personally, I really really enjoy going to a library. You sit down in your chair, and work on the computer. It’s so quiet. There’s something about quietness that makes me smile and I’m a man. It also teaches that silence is the emission of sounds of such low intensity that they do not draw attention to themselves. That’s almost like a whisper isn’t it. That is what they used to say years ago,… quiet like a church mouse.
Whether it comes down to a woman being quiet (or men being quiet for that matter), quietness is a great thing. I like working outside and doing our jobs and we’re quiet and we’re working hard. The opposite of that is getting loud or fighting.
Let’s take a look at one more scripture here.
1st Peter 3:6 even as Sarah obeyed Abraham calling him lord.
Obedience is submission. Obey means to comply with commands or the direction or the request of somebody else who is your authority.
Remember, as Christians we refer to Jesus Christ as Lord of lords. Sarah called Abraham Lord. The man is the lord of the home.
Colossians 3:18 says, wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord.
Here is another submission and obedience verse. Fit means requiring or meeting the required purpose. Women have a purpose before God to meet. That required purpose is to be fit. To be fit in the Lord is to do what he wants you to do.
This is not just the command of a husband this is the command of the Lord Jesus Christ who wants women to be like that towards their husbands.
Ephesians 5:33 a wife is supposed to reverence her husband.
If you reverence somebody you are going to show them deep respect. One of the definitions here says reverence is a feeling or attitude of deep respect tinged with awe or veneration.
You want to hold them in a place of reverence in your heart and in your mind because they are your direct authority in the home. Whether he’s a believer in Christ or he is an unbeliever that is the way that you want to treat the man of the house.
Ephesians 5:22 wives are supposed to submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord
So when a woman who claims to be a Christian is professing to have faith in Jesus,… perhaps she’s going to church or Bible studies, the Lord Jesus says that you are supposed to submit to your husband as you would unto Him.
If you want to go to church and try to obey Jesus Christ, He wants you to go and obey your husband because the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the savior of the body therefore as the church is subject unto Christ so let their wives be to their own husbands in everything.
So again, The word submission has to do with obeying your head ship. The man is the head of the wife, he is the head of the home, he is the ruler and leader of his household, he is in charge, he makes the decisions.
When wives obey their husbands like that, what happens is that the children see that obedience and then they obey the dad then they obey the mother because they see her obedience towards him.
So as I have said numerous times through the years, obey obey obey. It spreads like a wildfire.
Wives are supposed to be subject to their own husbands in everything. Not just what you choose, claiming he’s doing this wrong or that wrong, or saying he really doesn’t know and I’m not going to listen to him at this point….. The Christian husband probably is consulting God in his personal prayer time and he’s waiting patiently for the answer from God. He wants to make sure that he makes decisions correctly for the family.
The woman is never supposed to usurp over him. She is waiting for his decision as the dad waits for his decision to be given to him from Christ and he makes it and she abides by it. That’s being subject to your husband in everything. [ if your husband is an unbeliever just do what you’re told and try to win them to Christ ]
1st Corinthians 11:7 says man is the image and glory of God woman is the glory of the man
Ephesians 5:22 says wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord
1st Timothy 2:11 let the woman learn in Silence with all subjection
When she learns in silence she quietly listens to what she’s being told. Think about kids that are in the classroom at an.Elementary School somewhere. The teacher stands there and he wants everybody to quiet down and perhaps he wraps his ruler on his desk or takes the rollcall and then he teaches and instructs them for 45 minutes.
That is the way that the woman is supposed to be with her man. She needs to be a quiet silent learner. Genesis 3:16 Says the husband rules over the wife.
Rule means to have control or dominion over or to exercise power over somebody who has been placed in their charge
1st Timothy 2:12 but I suffer not a woman to teach nor to usurp authority over the man but to be in silence. The word suffer means to put up with something. Paul didn’t put up with that in the church at all.
Nowadays they have a lot of women preachers and women Sunday school teachers but the true Apostle here he did not put up with that at all.
The woman is not supposed to usurp authority over the man. A woman is under man. Man was created first then the woman,…. and you know to be honest with you,…the woman came out of the man. Man was created out of the dust of the Earth but the woman was actually given birth to through Adam.
Have you ever thought about it like that before? Thats what a woman does when she has a baby and she gives birth through her body. That’s what Adam did…. he gave birth to Eve in a manner of speaking.
As we talked about recently in another study , usurp means to go over the head of somebody else or go over someone who is in authority
Years ago I used to have a friend who was the sheriff and we talked about this kind of stuff. One time they picked up somebody and people were so upset that they were kicking the windows out of the back of the sheriff car and doing all kinds of stuff like that. Its all comes down to usurping authority. A wife might get in an argument with her husband and then say the heck that, I am not doing that… that’s usurping authority over him and that’s not the way of Christ, it’s not what Christ calls for women, and is certainly not good for the children.
Lastly today, it teaches in Hebrews 13:17 to obey those that have the rule over you.
There are people who are in the church preaching and teaching and they have the rule over you,… or a dad and so on and so forth.
Even the Apostle Paul and his teachings for the church, who himself submits to the teachings of Jesus, and Jesus ultimately to God the Father.
So you see, we have all these teachings that have been handed down by men of God unto us even the prophets in the Old Testament.
We’re supposed to learn to obey. They’re not preaching themselves their preaching the Lord God and that’s a different thing. These are the teachings of the Lord Jesus who laid down his life for you at the cross. This is the Lord who bled so that you could be forgiven of your sins and you can have remission for what you’ve done wrong. That’s what the preachers and ministers are doing is trying to get you to obey Christ word so that we can please him and love him with all of our hearts.
So all of us have a purpose that has been given to us by God and we just need to walk in those purposes and callings. We need to learn to be obedient. Remember if you are a wife out there, be in subjection to your own husband. Even if you’re not married you need to obey men.
The women in the church obeyed men whether they were single or married. The reason why is Adam was first formed, then Eve. [ God is a God of order ] People need to be in subjection to the authority that God has placed in their path. A husband is one of such authorities.
I really appreciate the time together with you today and like I said this is given to you in love because I care about you and your souls. Lord willing we’ll talk again soon. bye-bye